Matthew 22:34-39 tells us that there are two choices we must make if we are to be effective in useful service. Love God with all your heart & Love others as you love yourself.
From the King James Version
34But when the Pharisees had heard that he had put the Sadducees to silence, they were gathered together. 35Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying, 36Master, which is the great commandment in the law? 37Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38This is the first and great commandment. 39And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.The problem here is that while I do love God with all my heart, I love others more than I love myself. Maybe it is easier to give unconditional love to others than it is to love myself because I don’t know others as well as I know myself. Not knowing the foibles of others as I know my own makes it easier to simply assume that there are no actions on their part that would make me hesitate to give love.
Something I can work on with God's help, I'm sure. Those who believe in Christ are saints, but there are times I don't feel like one. Peace & Prayers.